Talking with my friend this weekend, she was talking about how angry her 4 yr old gets and the name calling he uses in the midst of his anger. She talked about how she washes his mouth out with soap.
I asked her, “How do you validate his anger?”
She looked at me with a question mark.
“Like do you say, ‘You sound angry. You have a reason to be angry but calling people names is not right.'”
This was a new thought…sometimes one new thought integrated into relationship can create a new avenue of grace in our lives.
Last week in the midst of my son’s anger he teased his sister: in the midst of my anger at him I hurt. After talking a few different times as a family about it, we went to bed. I woke up with it on my mind.
After realizing that God’s grace is there for me I went downstairs to my quiet time chair with my bible and books and paper and pens…I was convicted about how far I had come from who I really wanted to be.
After breakfast before we went our separate ways for the day I said, “I have something to say.” In the presence of my family I knelt down and tearfully asked my son to forgive me. An embrace was a sign of his grace.